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Thursday, August 19, 2010

Three Simple Tips To Save Your Marriage

Saving a marriage is not something that is easy to do, especially when the marriage is on the edge of divorce. Some even resort to paying Professional Marriage Counselors and "shrinks" to to save their marriage. If you have no other choice, then this surely is money well spent. However professional is not always needed. When the couple has the confidence and conviction that the marriage can be saved then you might be able to do it yourselves. Within this article I will show you 3 easy but effective ways to rescue your marriage without going to an expert. 1. Communication Great communication is always the most effective way to rescue your marriage. Talk it all out. Open up and share each other's feelings, regrets and hurts. This way your partner will know the causes of your actions and non-actions. Also, this way, problems will be identified and discussed. Prevent yourselves from arguing and blaming each other. Remember to have a cool and calm mind during your conversation. This can definitely help you with locating the best solution to every complication you have realized. 2. Spend Time Together Spending time with one another is a great way to reinforce your bonds and make your relationship stronger. Understand how the marriage life has changed the both of you. Learn the new things about your partner. You will come to know your spouse in a whole new light. Appreciate the good changes and point out the bad so that it will be changed. Also, during this time, find the romance you once had before your marriage. You were once madly in love with each other, why not now? Show each other that the love was not forgotten or worst lost. Do something special for each other. And remember, always remember important dates. This can definitely save plenty of trouble. 2. Remove Pride Pride has its place but often times it a man's downfall. Learn to adapt into the situation. Pride will not save your marriage but, on the contrary, it cause troubles. Pride is different from principle. Do not make them the same. Being what you desire to become is much different than being what you have to become. Be the latter and forget about yourself first. Always keep in mind that your spouse expects you to be better because he/she needs you. Accept the changes that are so obvious even once you're not inclined to like them. The key word is to adapt. Adapt to every situation and change, in the end you will be victorious and you can keep your marriage intact.